Dear Friends,
Why are we so hard on ourselves? A lot of us are an amazing best friend, sister, brother, mother, and/or father. We are the go-to, the crying shoulder, the make you laugh when you’re sad, the make everything better by saying, “It’s all going to be ok.” Perhaps you say…“This too shall pass”…“You can get through anything”…“Be positive”…“Don’t be so hard on yourself.” You say…“You are an amazing, beautiful human being who deserves the very best!”
Does this sound familiar?!?
What would it look like if we were that same friend to ourselves? If this is what we say to our best friends, sisters, brothers, sons, and daughters, then why don’t we say the same things to ourselves? Why don’t we follow our own advice and give ourselves the same pep-talk we give to others?
I challenge you to be that best friend to yourself.
I challenge you to be that best friend to yourself. I know, this will be quite the challenge! I get it! I am the toughest, most cruel, and most hurtful person to myself. I would NEVER say the things I say to myself to anyone I know or love, let alone a stranger.
It’s so important to fill our minds with positivity and affirmations. When thoughts pass through your mind, ask yourself…would I be saying that to ______ (fill in the blank with your best friend, sister, mother, etc.) If the answer is yes, your thought passes the test. If you wouldn’t say that thought to ______ (fill in the blank again,) your thought is NOT warranted. The thought needs to be redirected and needs to be told, “buhhhbyeee and please don’t come back!”
Try filling your mind with the same things that we tell our best friends, sisters, brothers, sons, and daughters.
The point is my friends, let’s be best friends to ourselves. Don’t say those hurtful things to yourself. Don’t tear yourself down with self-doubt, self-sabotage, and worry. Instead, try filling your mind with the same things that we tell our best friends, sisters, brothers, sons, and daughters. I know you know how to do that, because you’re so great at doing it for others 💜
Love,
Viola Roc
PS – Always remember: you are strong, you are beautiful, & you are smart.
I absolutely LOVE these letters! So inspirational!
Thank you so much for the kind words <3
I wish I had this positive reinforcement when I was in high school— I felt so alone at that point in my life because I did not like cliques… girls were MEAN! Thank you for the positive reinforcement!
I’m so sorry to hear that girls were mean in high school…remember, people who act mean are hurting on the inside. Nonetheless, I”m sorry you lived through that. You are never alone, Ann!! Always remember: you are strong, you are beautiful, you are smart. Xo!